Can you tell me if im gay or bi?

so heres the deal. i'm physically attacted to boys. and also girls. but im also emotionally attracted to girls and boys. when i'm with a guy though, i end up finding like 768545 reasons not to be with them. and then i end up finding a way to intentionally ruin things. i didn't realize this until this year, and i first started dating boys around 3 years ago. another thing though, is that i don't find my self attacted to ****. the thought of being sexual with a girl kinda turns me off. so i just don't know what to make of any of it.